Wednesday, February 2, 2011

How to Win an Argument

One of the greatest lessons I've learned lately in the area of relationship is humility. Lots of conflicts, misunderstandings, and relational breakdown will be solved almost instantly by an attitude of humility. Humility is a difficult word to accept sometimes because it is understood as timidity and lack of self-confidence. Humility appears as though you are always the loser or always at the bottom, like a rose, being trampled on the ground. People don't want to be losers because it hurts their ego, self-esteem, and pride. They want to win!

Often, we sacrifice friendship and relationship at the altar of being right. Lots of things can be resolve by not defending ourselves even when we are right. Broken relationship is fixed easily if we just let others win! When you let others win, it makes you a winner not a loser because you just won a friend. If you win an argument, you lose a friend and this makes you a loser. If you want to win, let others win!
  • Be courageous to say "I'm sorry", "My mistake" or "You are right." When you do, do it heartily, without making excuses.
  • Be courageous to apologize when you are wrong. And when you do, don't defend yourselves.
  • Be courageous to let others win!
  • Don't remind someone else past mistake.
  • Forgive and move on! 
It takes an attitude of humility to do these things, and to consider others better than ourselves. Being humble makes you a winner-you can win argument every time.

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